The word love itself sebenaranya has a broad meaning and the experts have to define and sort out the meaning of this term is very complicated, among others:
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Love of family
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Love of friends, or philia
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Romantic love or romance is also called
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Love is just a lust or love eros
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Love each other or also known as love or agape
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Love itself, which is called narcissism
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Love will be a particular concept
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Love of country or patriotism
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Love of nation or nationalism
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Love to God
Just limit the discussion, which is being discussed here is the love of the opposite sex relationships. To make it easier to guess the meaning of interpersonal love, it's good we know the elements of interpersonal love this. Interpersonal love has several elements, among others:
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Affection: appreciation to others.
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Proximity: satisfying basic emotional needs.
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Altruism: caring for others and their needs than yourself.
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Resiprokasi: not unrequited.
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Commitment: a passion for keeping love.
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Emotional intimacy: sharing emotions and feelings.
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Family: family ties.
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Lust: sexual desire.
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Physical intimacy: sharing closeness of personal intimate areas.
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Personal interests: the need for an award.
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Service: desire to help.
Of course there are many other theories about love than just love of the elements suggested above. Each culture may have different approaches to interpret the love. Even within one culture there may be several approaches to interpret the love. Basically love is an abstract concept, easier to experience than explain.
The view of Ibn Qayyim Al-Jauziyah
In Islam there is a scholar named Ibn al-Qayyim explains this love in his famous book, Raudhatul Muhibbin Nuzhatul Mustasyqin wa. Ibn Qayyim own record 50 terms associated with love. He said, "Because the human sense of the term love is very deep and have more to do with their hearts, so do not be surprised if other names for the term love as well. This is a very commonplace in a deeply understood or vulnerable to the human heart. "
Top words placed by Ibn Qayyim as words associated with love is al-Mahabbah. In language, this word has also been the origin of many words. Some say the meaning is clear and clean home. There is a notion that originally came from al-habab, water overflowed after torrential rains. There is more to interpret the opposite: that does not remain upset. There is also the opinion of al-habbu origin, the core things.
From the terminology, al-Mahabbah no different; has many definitions. Some means are as follows. Some interpreted it as an ongoing trend with a heart overflowing. There was a mean putting the interests of loved ones than others. Some interpret the wishes of a loved one, whether he is on the side or remotely. There also are interpreted as devotion.
Some interpret that its essential meaning is whatever is handed on to someone who loved you, so no one else had left. There is an opinion means you are willing to do anything that liked the person you love, then are you willing to sacrifice themselves, lives, and treasure for himself, and then you followed him secretly or openly. There is an opinion, that is your attempt to make the beloved to be pleased.
Much of the meaning of al-Ibn al-Qayyim mentioned Mahabbah centered how manghaturkan what we have; abilities, possessions, the lives of the lovers so that she pleased, delighted, and desires are fulfilled. Almost no meaning al-Mahabbah centered on satisfying personal desires of people who love except in one sense, the desire for a loved one is always present in the side of those who love. Apart from one meaning does not exist.
Love should
From Western psychology and the views of Ibn al-Qayyim mentioned above, the meaning of love dominated by how to have a loved pleasure, satisfied his desire by people who love. They are loved. Those who loved his girlfriend moved to respect, attention, and meet the needs of kebtuhannya than yourself.
Love that walked on its axis would bring peace and tranquility for those who loved not the reverse. The love that should certainly make a loved one feel valued, safe, fulfilled his needs, peaceful and serene.
Interpret the meaning of love like that certainly make life more beautiful and easier. Love is how happy you are the person you love. And with such that you feel happy. With a happy person who loves you is you'll be happy. Love is how you be happy when the person you love be happy. By seeing the person you love is in happiness, you feel happy, and that's how you love him.
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